I just read two articles which really annoyed me. One talked about the advantages city kids have over children living in the countryside. The other took the opposite position.
I have been thinking about this topic for a while now. We also aren´t sure what´s better for our children. But the two articles just made a joke of country life.
We live in the countryside. But we also wonder if it´s good for our children. We don´t know.
Oh dear! A topic like no other (except maybe vaccinating...).
In one corner, you have the heartless people, who leave their child alone with all her fears and ignore every desperate cry for help. In the other corner, you have the helicopter parents, who take away their child´s every chance of developing autonomy or self-confidence. If they don´t accidentally crush them at night, that is.
Sounds like a sound basis for a reasoned dialogue, doesn´t it? Not really.
It´s best not to raise the topic. Especially, when other parents are present. You can never be sure, whether it´ll end in harmony or hostility. Everything´s possible. I know it is.
But why do people get so worked up?
Everybody should (be allowed to) decide for herself and stand by that position. A decision won´t get better by fighting someone else´s position. Live and let live.
Our children sleep in our bed. All three of them. We even build a 2.4m X 2.4m bed for that. And I like it that way. Especially, because I know it´s going to be over some day and I´ll lie in bed alone.
It all started with the big C and an extra bed next to ours. One day, he decided to sleep in our bed. Today, his bedroom is just a playground.